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In the heart of Starhawk's ode to the The Great Goddess, there is the line:
Let My worship be in the heart that rejoices, for behold --
All acts of love and pleasure are My rituals.
Of all the suppressions of tyrannies throughout the world and its history, the one limiting natural sexuality is the most heinous and profound -- for it is in the sexual orgasm that one has the potential to access the myriad of nested layers of multidimensional realities that exist all around us.
(6/22/06) Susan Ferguson has addressed the sacred orgasm concept in her guise as the voice of Inanna. While her site is (as of this writing) not currently functional, her thoughts have continued and are portrayed in part below.
Perhaps the most noteworthy concept noted by Inanna (aka Susan) is one's state of consciousness during the sexual experience. If one is into pain and bondage, power over their partner, cruelty and vindictiveness, or simple selfishness; then sure enough the experience will activate all the negative and lousy emotions we so often associate with lousy sex, dental appointments and meeting politicians. Restrictive emotions will leave one limited and limiting, lust will go unsatisfied, and the encounter will be negative, draining, and basically crummy. One may feel a momentary surge of power, but at a very considerable cost.
One of the more ignorant concepts which has made the rounds lo these many years is the idea that in an orgasm the male of the species suffers from a sudden depletion of energy -- what the French call "a little death". As it turns out, such depletion is merely an indicator that the male (and/or female) is not doing it right. When it is in fact done correctly -- with both partners consciously aware and in the right frame of mind (pardon the pun) -- then the act is enormously energizing for both participants. The contrary view that the male is always exhausted afterwards is simply pure patriarchal nonsense. Anyone promoting this barn carpeting is woefully ignorant.
The absolute essential element is that, "Your orgasm is an exact expression of your consciousness." Inanna goes on to note: "If the man wants to enjoy the full and subtle nuances of Sacred Orgasm, he must patiently, sweetly, lovingly, and deliberately lift the frequencies of his lover. The fact is that when a woman generates massive deep sacred orgasmic wave fields based on his efforts, so will her partner. Their union will prolong his orgasm with hers."
"If he allows himself, he will be able to tune into her experiences, which he himself has fired and augmented. He will be carried away in the Bliss of their mutually created bliss, the cosmic waves of the true sacred orgasm."
The so-called "little death" becomes, instead, a "HOLY WOW!
Those who think an orgasm is a "release" have really missed the boat! Those who buy into the patriarchal, macho, willfully ignorant, it's just for me stupidity will have no clue as to the true potential. Sorry about that.
Obviously, in order to fully manifest the sacred orgasm, a key factor is the selection of one's mate. A one night stand is not conducive to love making and/or the achievement of a sacred orgasm. It might be a start, but consistency in lovers is infinitely preferable. As the saying goes, a “great lover” is not some man who can love many women, but rather a man who can love one woman all of her life.
Waves of love between two people is, on the other hand, extremely beneficial to the sacred orgasm quest. And such love tends to require time for proper nurturing and growth. The fact that experiencing a sacred orgasm is also a connection with the Divine is just icing on the cake. Not surprisingly, it is unlikely to occur the first time for two people -- no matter how attractive they are. If you will pardon the pun, it's a trip!
There is also the connection of the sacred orgasm to Tantric Sex. Tantra is about experiencing the sublime areas of life -- the bliss of being an alive human sentient being -- and incorporating it in everyday living. Dakini Di of www.alchemyofloving.com describes one experience which might demonstrate the possibilities:
“It was with a lover that I love(d) and trusted a great deal. It was the first time in my life that I could be easy with sex, easy about my relationship to him and completely wide open for whatever type of experience could happen. During orgasm I would go to some place, I didn’t know where, then, that was so light and energetic and refined and I started to bring that energy back into my everyday life.
“Then it started to get more and more profound – where during that time of orgasm, I would go to the center of Source Energy (some call Divine Energy) and from that place, know that I was sharing love and merging – with and having an orgasm with the archetype of male energy – in essence every male form in the Universe and most of all with quintessentially every male human being on Earth. Now THAT is an orgasm!”
"Now I fall in love everyday -- when I meet you and say that I love you -- I mean it -- deeply. Not to say I don't love individually -- I do -- and go through the pain and heartbreak when a relationship shipwrecks -- I do. But I also love the you I see in you and the me I see in you and the God I see in you."
As to the techniques of deliberately lifting "the frequencies of his lover", highly recommended is Hilda Hutcherson's "What Your Mother Never Told You About Sex." [G. P. Putnam's Sons, New York, 2002] Most books on Tantric Sex will also be useful.
And for those who don't consider sex as the most sacred and God-approved playtime available, a quick read of Pazzi Wan's The Gift of Sex [http://giftofsex.homestead.com/Page1.html] might be highly beneficial.
You might also want to consider that "If you want to use your experience to uplift you and your lover, then you both must focus on your mutual consciousness. Your endocrine system works in tandem with your chakras to emit waves of energy. These wave forms have the frequency and even color which correspond precisely with the level of your consciousness from your thoughts. These waves can be seen by those souls who are waiting in the invisible realms for an entry frequency."
So who precisely would you like to attract?
Consciousness is everything, even in the act of love making. The energy of the Sacred Orgasm can effect everything, including nature and the quality of our lives. The energies of orgasm can lift the entire planet, if properly done.
So let's all get out there and practice, practice, practice! As elementary school teachers are fond of saying, "If you don't get it right the first time, then you're going to have to do it over and over again until you do."
You might also consider some of the really profound thoughts on the subject of kissing -- as collected by Forbes Magazine in their "Thoughts on the Business of Life" [2/14/05]:
Don't you just love it!
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